Often times people try to over empathize that they just end up sounding crude and insensitive. I can say with full certainty that many of the really, really stupid things I have heard came from a person that just simply did not understand autism or a mom’s unending sacrifice to the cause. Below are 3 Top Things to Never Say to an Autism Mommy:
- “I’m so sorry for you. You deserve a ‘normal’ child.”
- “Are you scared to have another child when you’re married. Because what if, well, you know…?”
- “You must be exhausted dealing with the SPECIAL ways you have to deal with your SPECIAL daughter.”
Sigh. Do you get my drift? What the above phrase do is force a mommy to be on the defensive and to either prove you wrong or punch you in the face. Please friends, lets show restraint, love and acceptance. What is normal anyway? My daughter can look at a building and breakdown it’s architectural structure. She knows the anatomical details of the heart. Nevaeh break dances, rap battles, prefers to be called a hero instead of princess and has the most compassionate heart that I have ever seen.
I encourage everyone to learn more than what they have and experience things they never would have. Stretch your mind because your ignorance could be the very tool that could hurt someone.